Suppose
I should blog something then... Making a concerted effort to be extra-nice to my family/son in particular as Hubby making it v. clear I yell too much. Which, lets face it I do. And Hubby not v. happy about yelling as it is bad adab (hm...never translate that right, Islamic Manners/ettiquette) and it rattles his cage. Right, well in my defense nagging Mums are made not born, and after two hours of saying the same thing umpteen times being completely ignored in the same way I ignore ants and furniture fluff I noticed a good lambasting of the ear drums got the job done pronto. So you don't have to be a rocket scientist to realise the connection - lots of hours with no result or one yell and instant result?? I don't have the time, patience or energy for time-wasters and all round faffing about.
Anyway, I am *trying* to be a nice, happy mother who is responsive to her child's every utterance (was anyway) and doesn't yell at all.
And do you know what has happened in our blissful home of mutual understanding, co-operation, patience, tolerance and adab?? ALL HELL HAS BROKEN LOOSE.
Instead of appreciation I am getting more tears, more tantrums, more manipulation and more stressed out by continual "worship me NOW" mode. When I am nice to my hubby life gets *easier*; when I am nice to Boy I get stress-fest on legs. Why do children ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS *have* to take a mile when you give them an inch? WHY?!?
WHY?!?
So what do I do - revert to screamy-me? Aw, I love my boy, but being nice is such a lot more EFFORT....
Anyway, feel a bit better now except OMG I don't think I can HomeSchool my children - it seems so hard and complicated and .. and.. and... couldn't I just send my kids to one of you for 18 years please???? Everyone seems so competent!!
*hyperventilates*
Thank Allah for Polo Mints...
posted by Unknown @ 7:03 pm
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Diary
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Don't worry Debbie I was wondering if i could send my kids to YOU! Don't think i can do the homeschooling either but am just waiting and hoping that it all falls into place - Inshallah!
At the moment bribing with sweets is quite a good way to get things done but i don't know how long i can do that for. It started as a means of getting him motivated and now he expects one EVERY time he does any learning - Great!!!!
On the other hand i know that i couldn't bear sending them to school so i've got no other choice. I think at the beginning it's all so new and there are few results but inshallah when they begin to read by themselves etc we will inshallah be glad that we made the effort.
Hamza Yusuf mentioned in one of his bayans that at the end of the day the child carer's, in this case the school teacher's, main concern is his/her pay packet at the end of the month and that the child is just a means of achieving this, who is going to have more concern for the child but the mother! Was salam x
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